School anxiety
School anxiety or
school refusal explains the disorder of a child who refuses to go to school on
a regular basis.
You may think now, it
is most common in all children and it is not so serious thing. But friends, you
may have heard the story of elephant and rope. If you are not taking care about
this, it will leads to several mental disorders for your child in future.
What you feed to your child in initial days
matters a lot. These thoughts will firmly fix in your child’s mind so be aware
what you feed and how you are giving moral and mental support to your child.
Approximately about 1%
to 5% of school children have school anxiety and it is common in 5 to 6 years
and in 10 to 11 years old. It is because child experience major change in his
life for example entrance to kindergarten, entrance to middle school from
elementary and summer holidays to school etc.
In this article, I am
going to discuss about symptoms and signs of school anxiety, treatment to it
and most importantly what parents and teachers can do about this.
Symptoms
and signs:-
·
Children feel sick often and often.
·
Children waking up with a headache,
stomach ache or sore throat.
·
Children often complain about school.
·
If child stays in home these things
disappears and again comes back when school starts.
· Children with school anxiety may have
crying spells or throw temper tantrums.
These
symptoms may further convert to anxiety, depression, sleep disorder and
learning disabilities.
Why children suffer
from school refusal:-
·
Emotional attachment with parents cause
children think about their parents. They think negatively about their parents
like “What may happens to my parents in my absence?”
·
Child may strongly addict to toys,
computer games and pets etc.
· Child may don’t want to participate in tests,
speech’s, physical education classes.
·
Fear of teachers and friends.
·
Shyness or social phobia can contribute
to school refusal.
· Child is opens to world where there is
no support and care of their parents. Simply say child feels alone.
Treatment:-
This
is not clinical disorder and it is a preliminary stage of anxiety disorder and
social phobia. It is diagnosed through questions and interviews by doctors.
Other methods are not proven to be as useful. This disorder is cured by most
importantly parents and teachers.
Solutions for school
anxiety:-
What the teacher’s role in curing
this?
· When teachers saw the symptoms like
these, teacher must give support to those children and they must interact with
them in friendly way.
·
Appreciating toppers and scolding
average and below average students is not right thing. This will decrease the
hopes of children and they make their minds as they are not good at studies.
· Find unique talents in children and
appreciate them for that. This is great pleasure for those children and it
makes them confident about their skills. Teacher’s must invite these types of
children on stage and encourage them in front of all his/her friends for their
good works. This will avoid the stage fear and social phobia.
· Children don’t know what they are
capable of and they don’t know what is right or wrong? They blindly follow teacher’s
instruction and it is teacher’s duty that they must feed those children mind
with positive thoughts. So this will make children to believe in them and that
belief is most powerful thing.
· Give freedom to children. Give freedom
to explain their thoughts and problems. This will make a strong bonding between
children and teacher. Child believes in teacher as a care taker and they explain
about their problems clearly. This will give a clear picture of what really
child is struggling from and teachers may find solution for that easily.
· Always appreciate the creative thinking
of children. Instead of academic results, extract what child’s view on subject.
Make children to discover more things in that and leave them with practical
experiments. Practical things attract children and make them curious about
their studies. Develop creator’s mentality in children.
How can parents take
care of their children’s from school refusal:-
· Remove the fear of child about the
school. Discuss nicely, what is the trouble of your child for going to school.
Whether it is friends, teachers, homework, test etc. Find out the solution for
that.
· Always be in touch with the class
teacher and collect the information about your child. On the other hand discuss
with teachers about these problems of child so that teacher will understand and
take care of that.
·
In holiday’s time, child is too much
attached to family so it is difficult for kids to leave these emotions. So
before one week to start school meet your kid’s best school friend to him and
in that one week give more time for them to play. At least he will be
comfortable to go school.
·
Don’t feed your kids brain too much and
let them free in these ages. Because putting pressure on them leads to the feel
them Education is so boring.
· Find your child’s interest and teach
them in that boundary and also give example that is related to their interest
so that they can grasp easily.
Conclusion:-
Friends
understand this; even school dropouts had become great scientists, poets,
writers, businessman and many more. Your child’s thinking may be far away from
this academic syllabus. Who knows? Your child wants to be a president of your
country but some parents and teachers end up their children life as clerks in
the bank. Look at the birds, they feed their offspring’s, they teach how to
survive in this world and they teach how to fly. But we human at the fly time
of ours kids we cut those wings and we make them for nothing.
Do
you know, what is purest love can parents give for their children’s?
It
is nothing but freedom. Freedom is greatest love towards anyone because it
indicates that you have so much trust and belief on them. Your support and your
motivational words is enough to cure this school anxiety. Try this magic once.
Thank you friends for the time,
